Now that we’re in the middle of Hanukkah, and Christmas is right around the corner, it’s the time of year when gift-giving is on everyone’s mind. I don’t know about you, but it drives me nuts to give and receive so much meaningless stuff, just out of tradition. It’s bad for the environment, it’s stressful to have extra clutter in the house, and it emphasizes material objects as the way to show people you care about them. Ugh!
But I could have! Good to know I’m not the only one thinking this way.
I’m still going well - the bin is almost full again.
Was a bit worried about the fact that it was not all that full this afternoon, but I found a whole bunch of computer magazines (and a whole heap of other mags) up here in the study, so it’s almost full. Next week I need to clear out the spare room downstairs. Then I’ll be struggling to fid thngs to throw away, and I can then move into organising what’s left.
Gave away a couple of drink bottles that had complementary freezer blocks last week. Much better to give things away than toss them, when you can.
I think we’re starting to get somewhere. The kitchen, the bedroom and the ensuite and the living area downstairs are all still spotless. Good.
Entrepreneur Jason Fried found that working in the same office with his long distance co-workers actually reduced their productivity:
Proximity is an invitation to interrupt somebody. And interruption is the biggest enemy of productivity that there is. When everyone is sitting together, everyone’s at the same desk or nearby. It’s really easy to shout something over to somebody or tap someone on the shoulder or whatever. That can be useful at times, no doubt. But for the most part, it’s interruption.One could argue that this applies more to software development companies whose employees do more deep mental work than anything else, but it is an indictment of those awful open office plans that make you build your own attention firewall (headphones, anyone?) to actually get things done.
This is why I worked at home as much as I could when I was at the Wildcats. And it confused pretty much everyone who couldn’t work out why I wasn’t there to interrupt. Well, yeah.
Quoted from http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2007/08/13/malcolm-gladwell-on-the-power-of-marketing/:
In February I wrote about the insidious power of marketing. “We can try not to be swayed by advertising and marketing,” I said. “But no matter what we do, we are all affected by attempts to manipulate our subconscious. Even when we believe we are immune to manipulation, we are not.”
At that time, I e-mailed Malcolm Gladwell for permission to post an excerpt from his best-selling Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking (published in 2005 by Little, Brown and Company). Gladwell granted permission, but I haven’t found time to post the excerpt until now. Note that I have added paragraph breaks, inserted photographs and hyperlinks, and bolded short passages in order to make this excerpt more readable in weblog format. Here is Malcolm Gladwell on the role our subconscious plays in buying decisions:
Then there’s the issue of what is called sensation transference. This is a concept coined by one of the great figures in twentieth-century marketing, a man called Louis Cheskin, who was born in Ukraine at the turn of the century and immigrated to the United States as a child. Cheskin was convinced that when people give an assessment of something they might buy in a supermarket or a department store, without realizing it, they transfer sensations or impressions that they have about the packaging of the product to the product itself. To put it another way, Cheskin believed that most of us don’t make a distinction — on an unconscious level — between the package and the product. The product is the package and the product combined.
For a looooong time I’ve been on a personal mission to help people simplify kids’ birthday parties. I can’t tell you how much pressure and stress these events cause my friends and clients and it’s just so totally unnecessary. When I was a kid, we had birthday parties sometimes but the guests never even brought gifts. The cake, the ice cream and the gathering itself was the gift. These days, if you’re not spending the equivalent of a year of college tuition on your kid’s birthday, you feel like an unfit parent.
I’m going on record to say that’s total BULL. Listen to this recent episode of Vicky and Jen’s podcast What Really Matters, as they talk with Michelle West of Birthdays Without Pressure. It’s a great show! I’ve been saying for a long time now…
that kids only know what you show them and they’re happy with sooo much less than parents think. They really don’t need a bunch of new toys every birthday, and for Pete’s sake, be the first on your block to stop giving the dreaded goodie bag. I (not-so-affectionately) call these Little Bags of Crap because let’s face it, no kid needs to come to a birthday party and leave with a bag of cheap trinkets to add to their own clutter at home. Ack!
Another thing that really fuels my fire about birthday party goodie bags is that it sets a bad example and it’s a HUGE missed learning opportunity for kids. A birthday party is the perfect time to teach your kid that everything is actually NOT about him and it also teaches him to be a gracious guest when it’s someone else’s turn to be the center of attention. Teaching your kids that their birthday is second only to the Second Coming contributes to creating an ungrateful, spoiled, entitlement-minded child who is ill-equipped to live in society as a healthy, balanced adult.
Just as parents teaching the concepts of sharing, kindness, and generosity, I believe learning to be gracious and being aware of others outside of themselves is so important for kids to learn. I’m ranting… gee, can you tell this is a hot button for me? What are your thoughts and experiences with birthdays and how you’ve been able to simplify your kids birthdays.
Quoted from http://www.wisebread.com/have-style-not-a-lifestyle:
Have style, not a lifestyle
I briefly worked with a senior technical manager whose wife also worked for the same company, but at a different site. They’d bought a house about halfway in between, but they both had long commutes. When I mentioned that my wife didn’t have a regular job, he said, “I wish I could do that, but I need the second income to support my lifestyle.”
When I got home that evening I told my wife, “I’m sure glad I only have to support us and not a lifestyle too.”
When you get to the point that you start talking about your lifestyle as if it were an additional member of the household, you’re far, far gone.
Avoid having a lifestyle. But that does not mean not having style. In fact, having style is very important. Having style is how you resist the dreaded Diderot effect.
You can’t read very many articles on simple living without running into Diderot and his effect. Denis Diderot was a French writer who wrote a famous essay “Regrets for My Old Dressing Gown,” in which he describes how a handsome new dressing gown that he received as a gift was so nice his other furnishings no longer seemed to match it. He ended up buying all new–a leather chair to replace his straw one, a desk to replace his table, new pictures, new clock, new bureau.
The essay is famous not only among advocates of simple living, but also among advertisers who yearn to trigger the Diderot effect in every buyer. If they can but get you to buy one nice thing that makes everything else you own seem shabby, then they can get you, like Diderot, to upgrade everything.
The key to resisting the Diderot effect is to have style. Not just any old style, but a particular style. Something nicer than everything else you own isn’t in keeping with your style and that makes it easier to resist: It’s just not you.
If, despite your efforts, you do end up with one very nice thing, think of it as special and not a reason to upgrade your other stuff. After all, there’s nothing wrong with having a very nice thing.
It’s fascinating to watch how advertisers try to suck you in. They know the power of the Diderot effect, and the way it affects not only you, but all your neighbors as well. Not only you will want more nice stuff, but all your neighbors will need to upgrade their things as well, just to keep up.
After you’ve done a major purge of your closet, remove all the remaining clothes that live on hangers, and put them back in backwards, such that the open end of each hanger now faces you. Got it?
Then, mark your calendar for six months (or whatever) from today, and go back to your business as usual. Except that after every time you wear a shirt or a jacket or a skirt or what have you, when you replace the item, make sure the hanger faces the opposite/usual way (with the opening in the back).
When your n months have passed, and your calendar reminds you that it’s time, open your closet and remove every piece of clothing on a backward hanger; the chances are good you can give it away without the slightest pain, because you just clearly demonstrated that you don’t wear it.
Here’s why I love this.
I’ve said before that, in my estimation, a life hack is any kind of trick that forces the Smartypants part of your brain and the Dumbass part of your brain to stay in proper communication.
You think to yourself “Oh, I wear this all the time. I couldn’t possibly throw it out.” But humans are notoriously awful at accurately estimating these kinds of things — I know I am anyway. And it takes stupid tricks like this to prove what inevitably happens when we let our Dumbass run off-leash.
He’s back! The ever-controversial Tynan offers today’s guest entry on downsizing from an expensive condo to a 21-foot RV.
On April 20th at 3am I was still awake. I stood on the balcony of my penthouse in downtown Austin and watched the traffic drive by. We were supposed to leave the next day, but I was too excited to sleep. I called my girlfriend.
“Are you ready to leave now?”
“Haha, sure,” she replied.
I stuffed myself and a bag of clothes into the small car I’d rented and picked her up. Twelve hours later we arrived in Albuquerque.
One day earlier I was idly browsing eBay, as I’m known to do. I had this fantasy that I would give up all of my stuff and move into a smaller place. This notion was born when I moved from a larger house into the condo and was made acutely aware by the moving process of just how much junk I had.
But I could have! Good to know I’m not the only one thinking this way.
Holiday Gifting: 14 Ways to Give More Meaning and Less Stuff
I’m still going well - the bin is almost full again.
Was a bit worried about the fact that it was not all that full this afternoon, but I found a whole bunch of computer magazines (and a whole heap of other mags) up here in the study, so it’s almost full. Next week I need to clear out the spare room downstairs. Then I’ll be struggling to fid thngs to throw away, and I can then move into organising what’s left.
Gave away a couple of drink bottles that had complementary freezer blocks last week. Much better to give things away than toss them, when you can.
I think we’re starting to get somewhere. The kitchen, the bedroom and the ensuite and the living area downstairs are all still spotless. Good.
Quoted from http://lifehacker.com/software/interruption-management/why-proximity-kills-productivity-295064.php:
This is why I worked at home as much as I could when I was at the Wildcats. And it confused pretty much everyone who couldn’t work out why I wasn’t there to interrupt. Well, yeah.
Quoted from http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2007/08/13/malcolm-gladwell-on-the-power-of-marketing/:
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